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Patti and Molly
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Dec 03, 2015 at 10:55
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Hi everyone - I saw the other thread, where everyone was asking for an update. Thank you so much for thinking of us.

The news was not good. The kind of cancer Molly has is aggressive and moderately advanced already.

The cancer doctor said there are generally 3 options available - surgery, radiation, or chemo.

Chemo does not generally work well with Molly's type of cancer. He said he is willing to try it if we would like though, he estimates maybe a 40% chance of slowing it down. That means there is a 60% chance it won't do squat.

Surgery would be huge. The swelling is already up to her orbital bone, so in order to (try to) get all the cancer, they would have to take part of her upper jaw all the way up to her left eye. And then would not leave any bone support for that eye, so she'd lose her left eye too.

Radiation can be done and may be her best hope of slowing things down. However, because the cancer has already spread to near her eye, there is a chance the radiation would need to be done so close to her eye that her eye would get burned.

Since dad died on November 5th, I've cried every day. I watched him suffer the last 6 months of his life. It was horrible. And then we got the news of Molly's cancer, so I've cried every day about that. I'm exhausted and worn out. And I can't watch Molly suffer in the same way.

My spouse, Steve, is not a crier. He's teared up a bit at points over the last month, but never really cried. He started openly bawling as the doctor described the surgical option. I think he realized, for the first time yesterday, that we're going to lose her. And Molly is a pure Daddy's girl. She lays in his lap at night, she plays ball with him, and she loves her Daddy more than anything else in this world.

I can't put her through any of those 3 options. None of them offer a real hope of a cure, and I can't put her through hell just to try to slow things down, so that she can live longer but with a crappy quality of life. So we're going to have to let her go.

As of this writing, she's hanging in there. I know she feels the growth, but I do not believe she is in any substantial pain. She still plays ball, her tail still comes up, she's eating fine. But this piece of crap cancer is growing fast. I know at some point in the new few days or week or two at most, I'm going to have to let my girl go.

Thank you all, so much, for caring. It does help, at least a tiny bit, to know there are people out there who understand how much this sucks.


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Jeanie & Annabel
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Dec 03, 2015 at 11:15
• Jeanie
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Oh Patti, I came here first thing this morning, as I feared the news was bad, since I hadn't heard from you.....I can't see to type through the tears, but I will e-mail you later.

I totally agree with your decision, and I am so very, very sorry.

Love and hugs,
Jeanie and Annabel

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Lindsey
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Dec 03, 2015 at 11:26
• Lindsey
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I also came on to get an update, & I can't even tell you how sorry I am xxxx

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Iver and Sailor
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Dec 03, 2015 at 11:41
• David
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Patti I am so sorry the news was not good at the vet
I understand your decision not to put Molly through hell
just to gain maybe 6 months
I think you have made the right decision
I will pray for you and Molly that Molly has a
little more time with you and Steve.
I am not a crier either.
I did not cry when my dear Iver passed away in my arms
I also did not cry when my mother passed away
My mother and I had a special bond
Instead of crying I was rejoicing at the thought
that one day I will be reunited with all the pets I have had
and with my parents, too
That knowledge brought me great comfort
and I hope the knowledge that one day
you too will be reunited with all your loved ones
brings you some comfort too
Gentle hugs for Molly you and Steve

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Toby and Suzie's Mom
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Dec 03, 2015 at 12:10
• Mary Ann
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I'm so sorry for you all.  I always cry when my furbabies are hurting or ill.  But, Molly doesn't know how ill she is.  And I always consider that a blessing.  We know and we change our behavior, but she will continue to be herself and not slow down until she absolutely has to.  I've always been grateful that my dogs were as active and alert for as long as they were.  Our hearts and prayers go out to you and your entire family.  I totally believe that you are doing the right thing.  Remember, we are always here for you at any time. 


Mary Ann, Toby and Suzie


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Casey
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Dec 03, 2015 at 13:02
• Theo
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Patti, I don't know if you remember my guy Cedric, he was posted here by Linda from a rescue group from New Jersey I think (Allan and his ex)  Anyway, he came to me in Sept of '05, was the sweetest little old gentleman, an absolute love. In Spring of '06 I had planned a trip to Ireland in May. 

Three weeks before my flight a huge tumor was found in his chest, between his lungs, the vet did an ultrasound and a needle aspiration (while I watched) and it was a very aggressive cancer with no hope of surgery or treatment. I was going to cancel my trip, but vet said not to, he might not live to see me back home. I followed his suggestion, gave Cedric the time of his life with trips through the pet stores, trips to the pond and the sugar bush and lots of treats and loving. Two days before my flight, we gave Cedric his wings, I bawled like a baby and buried him with my other westies. Casey even tried to pull Cedric out of his grave... but in the end, I knew I had done the right thing, I had saved this wonderful little fellow from a future of agony.

I am bawling now and can barely see the keys, and I know you will understand. My heart is heavy for you, but I know you and Steve will do the right thing for Molly when she tells you it is time.

Sending strength to you and Steve, Molly will have many TC friends greet her when she crosses that beautiful Bridge.

With tears and hugs, Theo xoxox


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Sir William
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Dec 03, 2015 at 15:25
• Allen
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Casey, I thank you for taking such good care or Cedric. I remember the transport to get him to you. You are truly a westy angel.

Love Allen

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janet
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Dec 03, 2015 at 13:10
• JANET
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im so sorry, not an easy thing too decide, but I think the right one.


take care! 


jan x


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janet
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Dec 03, 2015 at 13:10
• JANET
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im so sorry, not an easy thing too decide, but I think the right one.


take care! 


jan x


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Diana
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Dec 03, 2015 at 13:40
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Sorry the news was bad but I do think you have made the right decision for her, she will let you know when she is ready. I lost my Rotti boy to bone cancer and even 10+ years after can relate to how you are feeling. Make the most of each day left with her as you never know how long it will be. I had 28 days after diagnosis with my boy and I know he was relatively happy, I was fortunate enough to be able to take him to work every day (I work with my family) and he loved being front and centre in the office and all the attention he received from my brothers and customers. 

Will be thinking of you both.

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Patti and Molly
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Dec 03, 2015 at 14:08
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Thank you so much, to everyone. I read your replies and I cry.

I know that some day in the future, life will be better. I know that. But right now, this sucks so bad it hurts to breathe.

I look at sweet little Miss Molly, and she looks back at me and wonders why I cry so much these days. So I'm trying so hard to contain my tears, snuggle her, walk her, and give her whatever her little heart desires. She's always thought she was the Queen of Everything anyway, so we might as well indulge that until the end now.



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Sherrie
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Dec 03, 2015 at 14:13
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I am so very sorry, and life does seem to often times throw more at us than we feel able to handle.  Just know that you are making the right choice for her, and that she has a wonderful life with you, which is more than so many pups get.

Hugs,

Sherrie and crew

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Deb, Emmie, and Angel Kelsie
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Dec 03, 2015 at 14:15
• Deborah
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Bless your heart, I know how hard this is on you and Steve. Our Kelsie had blood cancer and there was no treatment...We kept her with us as long as we could and then we made the heartwrenching decision to give her wings. It was one of the hardest decisions we ever made and I'm sitting here crying as I type, but I know we did the right thing. Knowing that we'll someday be together again and that she's no longer suffering comforts us and I hope that knowing this will comfort you too. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Love, Deb, Emmie, and Angel Kelsie


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Sir William
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Dec 03, 2015 at 15:30
• Allen
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These are the worst times to be a dog owner. I have been in the position too many times. I will keep you guys in my prayers and thoughts. When the time comes take comfort in the fact that you cannot let your precious angel suffer or continue in life in pain and suffering. We are crying right alone with you.

God bless you,  Love Sir William ^--^ and Allen 

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westiegirl3
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Dec 03, 2015 at 16:43
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My heart is breaking right along with yours.  I know how difficult it is to make that decision but it is done of out of a love that is so deep and wide that it's hard to even imagine.  We are sending our love and prayers for you, Steve, and Molly.  We pray that you have the most special times with your little baby girl.

Belle, Treasure, Olivia, and Debbie
 




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NimbySue
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Dec 03, 2015 at 17:39
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Patti,I am so very sorry this is the news we dreaded to hear ...Ellie had a blood cancer and was also blind and it was a waiting game and to give her the best of everything as she always had and the same with Emma our collie....Just give them the very best ..tears are flowing here.....Please know we are here with you  anytime....Thinking of you and please give Molly a Hug and kiss from us over here....Hugs Annie and Gang xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Mr.Willie
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Dec 03, 2015 at 18:31
• Sandra
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Tears and sadness reading your posts Patti. I am so sorry to hear this about your Molly.It breaks my heart for you both.Our thoughts are with you and sending you both gentle ((hugs)).

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Gracie aka White Bullet
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Dec 04, 2015 at 05:47
• Ellen
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So sorry to hear this but you are doing the right thing. I would do the same. My thoughts are with you and your husband.

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Moshe and Levi
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Dec 04, 2015 at 08:59
• Yoka
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Oh no what a terrible news but you are making the right decision with Molly..
we are so terrible sorry .We will continue to pray for Molly and you and your husband. \sending lots of love to you.
Yoka,Moshe & Levi
xoxoxooxoxox

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Patti and Molly
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Dec 04, 2015 at 09:07
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Thank you so much everyone. You have no idea how much comfort it gives me to feel surrounded by dog people. People who understand. She's not "just" a dog, she's my child. And she's a beautiful adorable funny spunky smart child on top of that.

I wish I could personally thank every single one of you, but I'm (of course) crying so hard now it's hard to see. I will come back and re-read this later when hopefully I'm not crying so much.

I'll keep you all posted. She's going to be living the life of a Queen until that horrible day comes.

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The Oregon Girlies...
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Dec 04, 2015 at 10:47
• Betty
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I don't post much here anymore, but this just breaks my heart..I lost two of my Girlies to Cancer so I know what you're going through..I just wanted to let you know that I think you have made a very wise decision, I believe in my heart that you will know when she is ready to go. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
xxxxBetty and my Girlies..Pieces of my heart at Rainbow Bridge...

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Rebecca and Connor
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Dec 04, 2015 at 12:47
• Rebecca
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Thinking of you, I know how hard this is.  Sending love and prayers for you and your husband.

Love Rebecca and Connor


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Caesar and Murphy Latham
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Dec 04, 2015 at 20:46
• Louise
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Patti I am so heartbroken to here what the doctor told you.  I feel you made the right decision.  When its time Molly will let you know.  I went through this with my precious Murphy.  Did the surgery and chemo thing.  His liver tumor was not an aggressive one so I hoped he would be fine.  He had a 15% to 30% chance the tumor would come back.  As luck had it he was one of the 30% and the tumor came back and mets in his lung.  I was just heartbroken.  Did not want to lose him but there was nothing left to do and he was ready to cross the bridge.  He crossed the bridge very peacefully in my arms on September 7th.  He was no longer suffering.  It was so hard.  You are in my prayers Patti.  Love Louise, Caesar and Murphy at the Bridge

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Sandi and Maksim
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Dec 05, 2015 at 18:16
• Sandi
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Patti, I am just heartbroken for you. Know that you all are in my thoughts and prayers.

Love and hugs,
Sandi and Maks

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