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Roo's Mom and Dad
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Nov 27, 2017 at 12:26
• Cheryl
(New York)

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It's been one week since Roo left us. We went out today to do our swimming and grocery shopping and when we got home, I fell apart again. Coming into the house with bags, that enthusiastic greeting, giving him a biscuit when we came home because that's how he trained us, being underfoot while we unloaded groceries because he always was able to snag some goodie. Hit me like a ton of bricks.

I am so lost without him. Today I found the leash I used last time I walked him (I had dropped it in the car last Monday when I got home) . It's now hung up with the others.

I know that he would not want me to grieve -- I know that -- but my heart hasn't gotten that message yet. I truly believe he would want us to move on and open our hearts to another furkid in order to honor him and to heal. And we will. It's been so long, though, since we've looked for another best companion, I wouldn't even know where to start. 

I guess if the right pupper shows up, it will all work out. Just like it did with Roo.

But for now, my heart is still broken and I don't know how to get over it.



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Deb, Emmie and Angel Kelsie
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Nov 27, 2017 at 12:58
• Deborah
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Ah Cheryl, so many of us have been where you are now...Coming home to an empty house was the worst...In the weeks following Kelsie's passing, I got to the point where I'd sit on the back steps and cry my eyes out. I just couldn't face going in there to nothing....Slowly, it got better. It takes time, lots of time. I began noticing people out and about with their dogs and about 6 months in I began looking and asking people where they got their pups. The search was on! Everyone is different, some can open their hearts right away to a new dog. For my hubby and me, it took almost a year to decide we had the love to give another dog a chunk of our hearts. Roo will always have a piece of your heart but you'll know when the time is right to allow another dog into your lives. We're here for you when you want to "talk" and you're in our thoughts and prayers as you go through the grieving process.
Love, Deb, Emmie,and Angel Kelsie

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jan and pip
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Nov 27, 2017 at 15:08
• JANET
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very hard, we are all different.   ive always had dogs, as i have never had
children, so fur babies were my children.   some people cannot wait and get a new doggy straight away, some wait longer,   you will know when the time is right.  im s

all i can say is, it does get easier, but keep thinking of the good times.

jan x

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robin and presley
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Nov 27, 2017 at 15:30
• Sandi
(Nebraska)

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Cheryl, I also know how you feel.  When Buster passed, it was very quiet in the house.  I had little Robin but she never  came to the door when I came home like Buster did. tail wagging, sparkly eyes, asking "Mom where have you been, I missed you".   I missed buster so much and didn't really want another because I had Robin, but she missed him so  much, she went through depression. 

I decided to wait until I was ready, I know that right one would came  along, it took a few months but Presley showed up on a rescue web site and I know that we was the one.  He fit into me life and Robin was so happy. I had the feeling the Buster sent him to us.


It will take time, but the right one will come along. Am sure when you are ready . Roo will let you know when the time is right


As Deb said we are here for you anytime.

please take care, God bless


sandi robin Presley and buster at the bridge








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NimbySue
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Nov 27, 2017 at 16:51
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Cheryl,My heart is with you and Trip...like everyone here have said,you will know when the time is right to get that special one again...it takes me a long time to grieve...with all our lost puppers and anytime anywhere it can just get you and floods and floods of tears will just come..all the times even just driving or being in a shop or at home..and it just gets you,I can be overcome with tears  these years on for all mine  a differant pupper one day and then another a week later or so...I miss them very much and always will.....even though I knew Erics time was near I would have my bath in the evenings and sob  and sob at the very thought of going to lose him...and I did this so the other puppers would not hear or see me that way...it eased my sorrow when he came  back one night and gave us that sign he had crossed over though,I do hope Roo will give  you something to let you know also...maybe in a way you will not expect ....I too have all mines leads and toys and pictures up everywhere... if we did not grieve it would mean we had not loved,we are here for you when ever you need a shoulder  to talk or cry on.....Big Hugs and kisses Love from Annie and Gang xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Levi,Winter and angel Moshe
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Nov 27, 2017 at 16:54
• Yoka
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Dear Cheryl I know how hard it is loosing a beloved Pup..

 I cried a lot and every time I was hoping I would not show my tears. Some times I looked at Richard and he was crying too. Over time it gets a little easier and when I turn my iPhone on  and put in the code I see my Moshe. We was lucky that Winter came along and she healed our hearts. She follows me even when I am making blocks for a quilt. I stop sometimes and we dance together. She is such a joy and Levi is such a joy too. Sometimes we dance too.

I hope you find a Westie it really heals your heart and you are so busy getting to know the new one. Teaching the new one who is scared and before you realize it that a year has past.

 I know how your heart must be aching Cheryl and Trip.

Everyone is different. We picked up Winter on November 12,Time just flies by.

Lots of hugs and Love to you both,

Yoka, Levi and Winter

xoxoxoxoxoxo



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Roo's Mom
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Nov 27, 2017 at 20:38
• Cheryl
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Today was hard with it being one week. I relived last Monday and though it was awful in some ways, I got to be with my beloved Roo as he drew his last breath. I had never experienced that before and the thought of it absolutely terrified me. But our vet, Dr. Kevin Baldwin, who has as been Roo's doc all these years was not only a great doctor but a treasured friend, consoling and informing us every step of the way. I could not have asked for more He made Roo's passing a quiet, beautiful event, even though it was so sad.

We stayed with Roo for a while, while he entered his journey to the Rainbow Bridge.

Roo was, probably unlike others, a very quiet Westie, and as he lay there with his head resting on his paws, in that silence and perfect peace, I knew he had completed his journey without complaint or resistance and it calmed me enough to run my hands down his body, to ruffle his ears (which he loved) and to cuddle him and kiss him goodbye. I

My heart tells me there will never be another Roo, but I believe that in some way he is telling me, you and Dad can't be alone. You have too much love to give. I approve and I will send you a sign when the time is right. Trust me.

Yes, Roo, we trust you.

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Riley
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Nov 28, 2017 at 05:55
• allen
(New Jersey)

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We have all walked in your shoes and have suffered the pain you are going through. Do not look for a time when it gets better. Think of all the good times you shared in life with Roo. I still mourn my beloved fur friends and remember my last minutes with them. I know saying it was their time still does not make your grief go away.

They will always be deep in our being and I am thankful that they remain in my heart.

My God help you at this time.

Love Riley and Allen

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Elliot
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Nov 28, 2017 at 07:48
• Kay
(Oregon)

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The bond you had with Roo is unlike any human bond. He was your constant companion in heart and mind. Until these pups are gone it seems we never realize just how much our daily routines have revolved around them. They are as much a part of us as our limbs!

I made it 2 wks coming home to an empty house when I lost Elliot then checked on a Westie Mix in a local shelter.  No Westie in that mix but 2 kennels down was a CRAZY Bichon on death row waiting for me. The time spent training him, learning what he liked & bonding lessened the pain.  He was a piece of work too!   Ya know, his hair has straightened over the years and his face/head hair grows like a Westie now and I swear sometimes deep in his eyes it's Elliot staring back at me.

I don't think you will need to go looking because the right one will find you when the time is right.  You might consider fostering in the meantime or just helping out at a local shelter.  (( hugs ))'s to you, Cheryl.

Forever Elliot's Kay

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Patti and Molly and Allie too
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Nov 28, 2017 at 15:29
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Awww sweetie, I cried for you reading this.

One of my all-time favorite photos is Roo wearing your red lipstick. He was a special boy.

When I lost Molly to cancer 2 years ago, I have no idea what I would have done if the fates didn't deliver Allie to me literally the very next day. I missed Molly like crazy, but having a new furry baby running around the house doesn't give one much time to grieve.

I don't know for sure -  but I honestly wonder if that's not the best way to do it. Everyone has such different opinions on this. None of us are the same (obviously!) - so what works well for one of us may feel absolutely 100% wrong to someone else. I can tell you having Allie to love helped me to heal and move on with my life.

My opinion is worth what you paid for it. We all know there are more furry kids who need homes, than there are good homes available. I hate to see a good home be without a furkid to love for very long. But like I said, we all are different and some people need time to grieve, and to process, before they are ready to open their hearts to another.

Please hang in there. I promise it does get better. Grief does things on its own timetable.....but it does, eventually....somehow....get better.

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